Words with Edges
Words should not be spoken in anger. Sometimes, we get so upset, so angry, so fed up…we just lash out and later regret how we may have responded.
Other times, it feels good to say what we feel and it feels even better to get it all out in the open. We may regret some of what we say but it is overshadowed by the relief of letting it all out.
However, to avoid any potential guilt for saying the wrong thing or truly hurting someone’s feelings, it is a good idea to first write our thoughts down. It gives you the opportunity to review what you’ve written, think about it, stew on it, and grumble to yourself about it some more before you decide where your battle truly lies. Is it with the person who upset you, how you were treated, what they said, how you reacted, what you said or what you didn’t say?
You may wonder why I’m writing about this particular subject. Well, today I had an instance where I was treated in such a way that caused me to feel many emotions. I was upset with the way someone approached me about something. I was then put on the defensive when I was asked to explain my response. And I was angry for being spoken to in a disrespectful manner which I did not deserve. When I did not respond how the individual apparently hoped I would, I was questioned in a way that not only made me feel I had to defend myself but which also made me dig my heels in further and refuse to back down.
Had I not been approached in such an aggressive way, I believe things would have turned out much differently. It may have ended in an agreeable way for all involved. While I was very upset with the treatment I received, I am relieved that after saying what I needed to say in response to what I was approached about, I refrained from saying anything more. I did not say anything I will now regret.
Thanks for listening as I write out some of what I’m feeling here. What I have learned from this experience, I’m not quite sure but when new situations pop up, as I expect they will, I’ll try to remember this little bit of advice as I continue to learn, adjust and move on: