First Impressions
They are important but they sometimes lead to the wrong impression.
I recently did just that.
The other day I was searching through my favorite blogs, catching up on some recent posts and I was directed to a blog called write to done which included a post titled: “Top 10 Blogs for Writers 2010-2011,The Winners.”
Why?
The blog is called Men with Pens and although I regularly view other blogs written by men, my first instinct was that I did not wish to view a blog with regular posts by many men, if the name was any indication. Would they have useful information just like women writers do? Sure. Could I make use of their information? You bet. Will I only read blogs written by women? Heck no. But I already read enough blogs and my time is limited as it is.
At the Men with Pens site I got interested in a few posts about blogging with a byline only offering “Written by James.” As my eyes wandered towards the bottom of the last post, I saw a short blurb about the author, named James Chartrand, and alongside that was a photo of…
It was a photo of a woman? I’m sure my brows furrowed as my brain quickly registered that the photo of a female must be a mistake. I finished reading the short introduction which ended with the sentence, “She loves the color blue, her kids, and ice skating.”
I love a good puzzle. It’s one of the reasons I have always loved mysteries and enjoyed my job as a private investigator. This was a puzzle of a different sort but I decided I had to find the answer as to why a woman was blogging under a man’s name.
You can bet those words drew my curiosity, as I’m sure they were meant to do. I clicked on the link, only to be taken to another website, www.copyblogger.com, and a post on their blog titled, “Why James Chartrand Wears Women’s Underpants.”
I read the post only to discover that “James” is a woman who, after going through some hard times and finding it difficult to find an adequate amount of work with good pay, decided to use a male pseudonym and…voila! She began getting more work and earning more pay.
The point is it worked for “James” who, according to her posts, still uses the pseudonym and does not wish to divulge her true name so as to keep her life private. I have to admit that’s a bit surprising to me, only because I have to agree with the concept that many writers have a bit of an ego and if they become published, they would most certainly want everyone to know about it. That’s hard to do if you don’t want to use your real name.
Lesson learned for the day, at least for me, is that it’s never too late to give a first impression a second chance.